Love, Repair, and Wisdom: Messages From My Mother on the Other Side
Mother’s Day. It’s not always brunch and tulips. I would wager it’s that way for many people. Much depends on your regulated nervous system level, the health of your family dynamics and whether your mother is still on this plane or not. Believe me when I say I’m familiar with the terrain. I’ve surfed the tide of family estrangement and have navigated 41 Mother’s Day holidays since my mother passed over.
This year coming across a folder of soul-to-soul letters I’ve channeled from my mother brought a great reminder that love NEVER dies. Reading them I’m reminded about the gratitude they’ve inspired and the opportunity they provided to continue, repair, and share a loving relationship with my mother. What does she have to say from the Other Side? Please continue reading for her wisdom and insights.
3/9/19
“Honey – the ball’s in his court. You tried. If he doesn’t pick up the phone, you make him pay. This behavior is juvenile. If he can’t be direct, like 5 hours ago, and say what’s on his mind… it’s time to let him know this is not going to fly. The silent treatment is a trigger for you and you’re not putting up with being treated this way anymore.”
4/22/15
Mom: I know you’re mad at me.
Me: Kind of. I just don’t understand.
Mom: Well, I was human doing the human thing. You see how that is.
Me: Yes, I do. For sure.
Mom: So that’s it. I made mistakes. I wish I had done better and I’m sorry. I’m sorry you felt unloved and ignored. It’s the last thing you should have had to feel because you’re wonderful. And you pretty much got that way all by yourself, which is amazing. You’re amazing. Start acting like you know it. You’ve gotta stop playing small. This isn’t grade school where you wait to get picked for the team. YOU’RE the captain Susie Girl, and you are so much more of an incredible woman than you realize. It’s time to step into yourself – all that you are.
6/9/20
My Beautiful Girl,
I know you question your mothering, but you shouldn’t. You’ve been your girls’ North Star. Sometimes less words speak the loudest. The best thing for you now is rest and quiet. You have to get still to hear the wisdom of your own heart. I know you want to find your purpose, and you will. It comes sometimes in a whisper. That’s why the quiet time is important. I love you Honey and I’m always here.
6/11/19
Good Morning My Susie,
It’s all going to be okay. I know you’re frustrated and feeling trapped in a place where you’re not comfortable, like you serve in a job that feels inauthentic and icky. Wanting to bust out and be yourself and share what you have to give in a way that is more authentic to who you are. You’re annoyed that your loved ones don’t seem to respect, care, understand, or want what you want. They’re struggling too Honey. It’s not against you. Give into the feeling/desire of doing what you want, what’s good for Susie. Take time alone. You have a lot of changes going on. You need time to rejuvenate. One step at a time Baby. Know that I’m here, arms wrapped around you. Mama loves you.
What an amazing, healing experience these letters from my mother have supported. Knowing that I can continue to converse with her and soak up the wisdom she imparts about the challenges I experience… priceless. I hope if you could use some mother-wisdom and/or love they maybe offered you something. On a day such as Mother’s Day can be, in all the iterations, know that I see you, I am you, I love you.